Etiqueta: wow

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I remember seeing a post a while back talking about how speaker didn’t like being seen as a woman when around men or straight people in general, but wanted to be seen as a woman around other wlw, and that, as opposed to reflecting non binary identity, it had more to do with the fact that their womanhood was defined in relation to loving other women and had absolutely nothing to do with men at all, and that when men and straight people looked at her and saw her as a woman, they were imposing the wrong definition of womanhood on her, and it felt subtly like a misgendering. I don’t remember who wrote it, but I’ve been thinking about it a bit since then, and I kind of feel like that’s how I relate to butchness. It’s one of those signifiers of gender where, when I present butch, it’s to attempt to ensure that no one can separate my womanhood from my being a lesbian. It’s weaving those facets of identity tightly enough that they can’t be forcibly divorced from each other. I think that’s why it feels right to me.